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5 Red Flags in a Relationship from a SINGLE College Girl
March 24, 2025
Dating in college is tough. While we’re ready to date and maybe even settle down, it often feels like the guys are only thinking about the next happy hour. Below are my top 5 red flags to watch out for when dating a potential Mr. Right.
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1. Lack of Communication
If they’re hard to reach or don’t make an effort to stay in touch, it could mean they’re not fully invested in the relationship. You don’t have to talk or text every day, but the communication should be consistent. If they’re ghosting you, that’s a major red flag.
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2. Disrespecting Boundaries
You have to make sure they respect your time and space! While spending time together is important, it’s also essential to have time for yourself and your friends. If someone gets upset about you hanging out with others, that’s a problem.
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3. Avoiding Relationship Labels
If they won’t talk about where things are headed or avoid defining the relationship, it could mean they’re not serious or don’t know what they want. After a certain amount of time, you should have the "what are we?" conversation. If he really likes you, he’ll be proud to call you his girlfriend.
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4. Talking About Their Ex Too Much
Constantly bringing up their ex or comparing you to them is a sign they haven’t moved on. You don’t want to feel like their backup plan or second choice. If they’re still stuck on their ex, it’s time to move on.
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5. Being Secretive
If they’re hiding things about their life or not sharing important information, it’s hard to build trust. Your partner should be someone you can turn to no matter what. If you feel like they’re being shady or secretive, confront them. If they continue being distant, it’s time to walk away.
Hopefully, this post helps you ladies spot some red flags before getting too involved. I know it’s easier said than done to walk away, but we only have one life, and we deserve the best when it comes to love!
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Love you!
XOXO
Ani
Why One-on-One Hangouts with the Opposite Sex Can Be Problematic in a Relationship
April 1, 2025
When you're in a committed relationship, certain boundaries become important—not because of a lack of trust, but out of respect for your partner and the relationship itself. One of the most debated topics is whether someone in a relationship should spend time alone with friends of the opposite sex. While every couple sets their own rules, here’s why one-on-one hangouts with female friends (for guys) or male friends (for girls) can lead to problems.
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1. Perception Matters
Even if your intentions are completely innocent, spending alone time with a friend of the opposite sex can create the wrong impression. Whether it’s to your partner, mutual friends, or even the person you’re with, these situations can blur lines and make people wonder if there’s something more going on.
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2. Emotional Intimacy Can Cross Boundaries
Deep, personal conversations and emotional support are key parts of any friendship, but when those interactions are happening one-on-one with someone of the opposite sex, it can unintentionally create a closeness that should be reserved for your partner. Emotional intimacy is just as important as physical boundaries in a relationship, and if you're confiding in someone else more than your significant other, it can create distance between you.
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3. It Can Make Your Partner Feel Disrespected
Even if you trust each other completely, spending alone time with a close friend of the opposite sex can make your partner feel uncomfortable, insecure, or disrespected. Relationships thrive on mutual consideration, and if your partner has expressed that this makes them uneasy, their feelings should be taken seriously rather than dismissed as jealousy or insecurity.
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4. Temptation Is Real
No one likes to admit it, but attraction can develop even in friendships—especially when you’re spending a lot of time with someone one-on-one. Many affairs and emotional betrayals start with innocent friendships. While you may not intend for anything to happen, putting yourself in a situation where emotions could grow beyond friendship isn’t worth the risk.
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5. It Can Lead to Unnecessary Drama
Even if nothing inappropriate happens, alone time with a friend of the opposite sex can create tension in your relationship. If your partner starts feeling suspicious or upset, it can lead to arguments and trust issues that wouldn’t have existed otherwise. Protecting your relationship from unnecessary drama is part of maintaining a healthy and happy partnership.
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6. Group Settings Keep Things Healthy
Friendships don’t have to end just because you’re in a relationship. Instead of one-on-one hangouts, spending time with friends in a group setting or inviting your partner to join can help maintain friendships without creating situations that could be misinterpreted. This way, respect and boundaries are upheld while still maintaining social connections.
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Respect Over Rules
At the end of the day, this isn’t about making strict rules—it’s about respect. A strong relationship is built on trust, but also on mutual understanding of what makes the other person feel valued and secure. If your partner would feel uncomfortable with you spending one-on-one time with a friend of the opposite sex, it’s worth asking yourself: Is this friendship more important than my partner’s feelings?
A good relationship requires effort, and sometimes, that means making choices that prioritize your partner and the love you share. Respecting boundaries isn’t about control—it’s about showing the person you love that their feelings matter.
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XOXO
Kate
5 Reasons Online Dating Is The Way to Go
April 6, 2025
In today’s world, online dating has become the way to go. People use online dating for casual purposes or to find their forever love. So many dating apps have been created that people can pick the best one that works for them. I have had experience using online dating, and here are my top five reasons why I think online dating is the way to go.
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1. You Can Meet People Outside Your Usual Circle
Everyone has their own type they tend to go with, but online, you're limited to only a little information. All you see is their photo and a very short bio to base your interest on. Sometimes, people want more information, but you can decide whether to talk to them more than converse through the app.
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2. It Saves Time (and Awkward Small Talk)
We’re all busy. Between jobs, social commitments, and just trying to relax. This means that sometimes we just don’t have the most time to go on tons of dates. By using dating apps, you can filter your matches based on values, interests, and goals—saving you time and helping you skip straight to the people you're most likely to click with. Then able to can have a conversation with them through the app to see if you're at least interested before you go on a date with them
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3. It’s Easier to Be Honest About What You Want
In person, it can feel awkward to say what you're looking for—whether it's a long-term relationship or something more casual. With online dating, everyone’s expectations are usually front and center. Most apps let you state exactly what you’re looking for, which makes it easier to find someone who’s on the same page.
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4. Great for Introverts
Not everyone is into the party or bar scene. If you're someone who feels more comfortable expressing yourself through writing or needs time to open up, online dating gives you that space to be able to respond instead of being put on the spot. Messaging before meeting helps break the ice, and by the time you meet in person, a little bit of the pressure is gone.
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5. It Works
There’s a growing number of success stories from couples these days who met online. In fact, research has shown that relationships formed through online dating can be just as strong—if not stronger—than those that started in more traditional ways. You never know til you try it and maybe you will have success.
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XOXO
Elizabeth
Why You Shouldn’t Lose Hope in Love
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April 7, 2025
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If you’re a Gen Z navigating love, you’ve probably felt like finding something real is harder than ever. With dating apps, situationships, and hookup culture, it’s easy to feel like meaningful relationships are a thing of the past. Ghosting has replaced closure, commitment feels like a rarity, and it seems like everyone is more focused on convenience than connection.
But even in a world that often treats love as temporary and disposable, real love still exists. And if you’re someone who wants something deeper, you’re not alone.
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1. Good Love is Worth the Wait
It’s frustrating when it feels like no one wants to commit, but settling for half-hearted love just to have someone is never worth it. The right relationship won’t leave you second-guessing where you stand. It won’t feel like you have to beg for effort or attention. The kind of love that lasts is the one where both people choose each other, every day. And that kind of love is still out there.
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2. Love Doesn’t Follow a Timeline
It might seem like everyone around you is either getting engaged or stuck in an endless cycle of "talking stages" that lead nowhere. But love isn’t something you can force on a schedule. Just because dating culture has changed doesn’t mean your story won’t unfold the way it’s meant to. Some of the best love stories happen later than expected, and that’s okay!
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3. Not Everyone Wants Something Superficial
It might feel like deep connections are rare, but they do exist. Plenty of people are just as tired of the meaningless cycles as you are. The key is to be patient and intentional about the kind of people you invest your time in. If you want a relationship built on trust and depth, don’t settle for someone who only offers surface-level attention.
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4. Your Standards Aren’t Too High
One of the biggest reasons people feel hopeless about love is that they start to believe they’re asking for too much. But wanting consistency, respect, and real effort isn’t "too much"—it’s the bare minimum. In a culture that often glorifies casual, noncommittal relationships, sticking to your standards can feel lonely, but it will lead you to something far more fulfilling in the long run.
5. You’re Growing into the Person Who’s Ready for Real Love
If you’ve been burned by modern dating, it’s easy to become cynical. But every experience—good or bad—teaches you something. You’re learning what you want, what you won’t tolerate, and what real love should look like. When the right person comes along, you’ll be ready, and they will be too.
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6. Love is About Connection, Not Perfection
Social media makes it seem like love should be effortless and picture-perfect, but real relationships are built on commitment, patience, and mutual effort. The best kind of love isn’t just about finding someone who checks every box—it’s about finding someone who chooses to grow with you.
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7. Love Comes in Many Forms
If you’re feeling discouraged about romance, look at the love that already exists in your life. Your friendships, family, and even the love you give yourself matter just as much. Romantic love is only one piece of the puzzle—it doesn’t define your worth.
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Real Love Still Exists—Don’t Settle for Less
Modern dating might feel exhausting, but don’t let it make you believe that love isn’t worth it. The right person won’t make you question whether love is real—they’ll prove it to you every day.
So hold on to hope. Love is still out there, and when it finds you, it’ll be worth the wait!
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XOXO
Kate
5 Reasons Why Being the SINGLE Girl in College Is Fun!
April 8, 2025​
I have been single of college and when I tell people that I often get an “awe” or “ how do you feel about that” and to be honest I always say I wouldn’t have wanted it any other way and these are my 5 reasons why
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You can learn about yourself with no one holding you back!
College is all about self-discovery! If you’re single, you have more time to learn about yourself.
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You can flirt with whoever you want!
If you’re single, there’s no pressure when you go out! You can talk to whoever you want—nothing is holding you back.
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You can focus on friendships!
Since you have no boy taking you out on a Friday night, you can spend your weekends with your girls!
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You can be spontaneous!
With no one holding you back, you have plenty of time to make those spontaneous plans. That’s what college is all about—making memories to last a lifetime.
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You are not settling!
I have plenty of friends who have settled just to say they have a boyfriend or girlfriend. It’s important to remember not to settle! We only have one life—we deserve to be with someone who treats us like a princess.Why You Shouldn’t Lose Hope in Love
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Yes it is hard sometimes to be the single girl in a friend group but I am thankful to have had the most amazing college experience and I do believe I had as much fun as I did because I have been single. I am ready to date now though… !
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XOXO
Ani
3 Reasons to Be Patient When It Comes to Love
April 15, 2025​
Let’s be real—waiting for love isn’t always easy. When it feels like everyone around you is in a relationship, it’s tempting to settle for something because you feel like you’re not missing out. Here are 3 reasons why you should be patient.
1. You Gotta Know Yourself First
It’s cliché because it’s true: You can’t fully love someone else unless you love yourself first. Being patient gives you time to figure out what you actually want, what makes you happy, and what kind of relationship you want. The more comfortable you are with yourself, the more likely you are to attract someone who actually fits into your life—not just someone who fills a temporary gap.
2. Rushing Usually Leads to Regret
When you jump into a relationship too quickly, you don’t fully take the time to get to know the person and could miss out on what’s right in front of you. And more often than not, those rushed situations don’t end well. Taking your time helps you spot red flags, avoid unnecessary heartbreak, and make smarter choices about who you give your heart to.
3. The Timing Has to Be Right
Sometimes, life is just moving too fast, and you don’t have the time to fully invest yourself in a relationship. You might be ready, but maybe the person you’re meant to meet is still figuring out their own situation. When things line up at the right time, love feels much easier and more natural. Patience lets things fall into place the way they’re supposed to.
Overall, Love Isn’t Going Anywhere
There’s no deadline. No timer. Just because it hasn’t happened yet doesn’t mean it won’t. So keep being yourself, growing, learning, and living your life fully. The right person will show up when you least expect it. Just be patient.
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XOXO
Elizabeth